I have a casual friend that I think I shock every time she asks me a question. And she's not being nosy, it's just the way she asks things sometimes gets her a response she didn't expect.

We approach life very differently. I enjoy being around her, but sometimes when the questions start, I want to make a polite excuse and leave, because she's going to make me work to answer them.

An example of one of her questions that got her an unexpected answer was the last time she asked me about my New Year's resolutions. I don't make them. She had a problem accepting that, because, after all, everybody makes them.

I told her that it wasn't that I didn't believe in self-improvement, but that I tried to do things to make me a better Becky whenever I thought of them---which might mean I start doing something different on October 3, not January 1.