September 10, 2001
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Here's your public service announcement from Beckyland regarding asking for favors. If you've really and truly made someone mad, or hurt that person's feelings, apologize before asking for a favor.
Otherwise, expect to be turned down. Especially if I'm the person you're asking.
I know we're supposed to turn the other cheek. But I also know it's possible to run flat out of cheeks to turn. Beyond that, I know it isn't good to reward poor behavior.
And in case you're wondering, this has less to do with forgiveness than with not allowing oneself to be a doormat.
I occasionally realize I've been too nice to people who don't deserve it. It's hard to back away from that, but I do try. I am trying to remember that I don't owe anything beyond common courtesy to people who have wronged me.
Not serving as the doormat keeps me from feeling so muddy.